Rob -
The forum is very cyclic. I've been approving new members recently, and we have a massive influx of members, but only about 1/10th of which choose to post. Some members stay a while, others post for a bit then leave, others are in/out over long periods of time.
As for you BOV - it should not be leaking when you approach peak boost. You'll want to adjust it a little to the "harder" side. You should only hear it making noise when you let off the throttle. Also - the car won't "fart" anymore. That is something that happens only with the stock bypass valve - the flimsy rubber diaphragm flutters in it causing the noise.
I've seen som super high boost applications that will leak a bit, but that's how they are set up.